Keep in mind this is a stranger that you know nothing about.The person you talked to 5 times on the phone may sound nice, that you met at a speed dating function for 3 minutes looked cute, or he/she writes nice emails, but remember, you DON' T know the other person.It is personal preference on how long to wait but there are very few reasons to delay.After all, contacting someone is just a pre-cursor to the first date.Wondering how to get to the second date with someone you met online? As most online daters know, it's not the first date that's hard to get — it's the second. When you're getting to know your date, don't be prepping your next thing to say while he's talking.But if you're dating online because you want a relationship and not just a date, making a connection and getting that second date (and third and fourth) is the whole point. You may be tempted to make that first date a sleepover. To find out if there's a spark, you can't just talk about the weather. Ask him a question to get him to expand on what he just told you.One common reason to delay a first date is due to an attempt to learn more about the other person. I found the first few minutes of the first date are worth more than dozens of emails.Another reason to delay would be if the person you are communicating with has expressed extreme reservations about meeting people from the internet.
Keep a sense of humor about the awkwardness of first dates — he'll definitely sympathize! It might cause anxiety and uncertainty when transitioning from an online relationship to a face-to-face date.Although these feelings are common, it should not prevent you from taking the next step.I have written a few pointers on how to have a great first date with someone you met online. Anyone can ask what you do for a living, what your favorite food, color or animal is — and those are good questions — but think of something fun and out of the box.Don’t go too deep such as “What is your life ambition? ” Questions about a favorite college memory or high school activities could turn into stories that will get them talking and take the pressure off you.