A few months later, I dated another guy—let’s call him Paul—for a month. Then I found out that two days after breaking up with me, Paul started going out with Mitt. It was the end of the school year, and I quickly left for vacation. Gays and lesbians are about 2 to 5 percent of the population.
The school year starts back up soon, and I am still pissed and hurt that they are dating. I’m afraid that arithmetic precludes us from hewing to the “bro code”—at least where dating friends-of-exes, exes-of-friends, or exes-of-exes are concerned.
Two of my best friends recently started dating each other, and while I am very stoked for them, I struggled a bit to come terms with it.
On one hand, I was very excited because they’re adorable together and they make each other very happy.
He broke up with me, and it hurt as much as breakups do, but I got over it. —Exes Became A Couple Avoid them for now, EBAC, and get over yourself.
Two guys dated you, both dumped you, and now they’re dating each other. So avoid your exes for now—why salt your wounds by hanging out with them? Don’t trash them on Facebook, don’t force your friends to choose sides.I’m not suggesting that their more-probable-than-not breakup should delight you, EBAC, only that you might not want to burn bridges because—college being college, gay men being gay men—you could wind up dating one or the other or both of these guys again.Or, more likely, you might want to be friends with one or the other or both of them once your hurt has burned off.It’s a sad day when good friends start acting strangely toward you when you’ve found new love.You’ve been friends for as long as you can remember and have shared intimate details about just about everything that goes on in your lives, but now your friend is acting like you’ve done them wrong.